Reminders for my unborn daughter:o)

Anonymous asked: Miss Whitney - are you currently pregnant? Or is this for your future child?

I’d prefer to keep the details private but yes this is for my future daughter Elle:o)

Elle Celia Faith,

One day there will be a man that comes along and makes you feel as if your life was all wrong before the day you met him.  Butterflies will swell in your tummy, the world will spin and everything will feel like it came out of the pages of a fairytale.  If you are lucky, this feeling will stay forever with no deceit attached, pure genuine love from this man to you.  But if it doesn’t, which is becoming more and more so common, this little note is for you.

Because you are my daughter, I know that you’ll possess my traits.  Your heart will be overly large and there won’t be a single thing that you won’t do to make someone else’s life easier.  You will be overly caring, if you see a wounded animal on the side of the road you will wrap it up in your scarf and try to nurse it back to health.  You’ll let other peoples worries and burdens keep you up at night because wanting the best for others is your main priority.  You’ll also be completely selfless when it comes to your relationships with others.  These traits are rarities that people don’t posses anymore and a lot of times you’ll lay awake at night crying and wondering why people are so selfish and why people take you for granted when your love and intentions are pure.  Let me say in advance that if I could redesign the world for you I would but because I can’t all I can do is offer you the wisdom i’ve learned the hard way.

Back to the fairytale.  Not every guy will be right for you, in fact i’m convinced that there is only one person created by God to be your other half.  You will meet a lot of guys that will claim they are that other half.  Some you won’t give the time of day and others you will because of that overly large heart I gave you.  Eventually you will give a lucky guy a chance and thats when the above fairy tale will begin.  Things will be smooth sailing and then your boat will run into an iceberg quicker than you can realize what happened.  This iceberg or in real life, the other chick, lies, mistreatments, etc…will throw you off your track and make you question everything about the way you love and about yourself in general.

This is exactly why I’m writing this.  You should know that God is perfect, he makes no mistakes!  The way he created you is beautiful, don’t ever let anyone try to convince you otherwise.  After a man has hurt you, the first step in healing is forgiveness.  It isn’t until you forgive that you relinquish all power that this person has over you.   Forgiveness will be one of the hardest things you have to do in life especially if the hurt lies deep but it is worth it!  

You’ll probably go through a wave of thinking you weren’t good enough but know that that’s not true.  An ex from a very long time ago just recently reached out to me apologizing for all the pain he’s ever put me through.  It was very surprising yet relieving to hear that in fact, it wasn’t me that made him act an ass and that eventually in time, people will grow remorseful for the hurtful ways they’ve chosen to treat people.

I probably say this in everything I write but love really does conquer all.  Don’t let hurt make you into a bitter person.  When life treats you unkind remember that there is someone else hurting a little bit more than you.  Get up in the morning, thank God for blessing you with another day to wake up and start loving on someone.  Volunteer.  Invest time in making yourself a better person.  Whatever you choose to do, make sure that you don’t let other peoples actions change you into a person thats not contributing to society.  When you let your heart go free to love again, thats when you totally have freedom from hurt.  Give it time, your heart will go on eventually.

Love,

Mommy:o)